Have you ever desperately wanted someone to see your point of view?\u00a0 To agree with you?\u00a0 Have there been times in your life when you were absolutely aghast with someone\u2019s inability to see the reality of a particular situation?\u00a0 I think we have all been there.<\/p>\n
Every experience I have had in my life has brought me to where I stand today.\u00a0 Every relationship, every job, every child, every bad moment, every good moment.\u00a0 All of them.\u00a0 Therefore, my perception regarding how things should be is biased to my experience.\u00a0\u00a0 And it is so for the other person with whom I am wanting to see things my way.<\/p>\n
This isn\u2019t about manipulation or coercion towards someone.\u00a0 This is about taking a step back and assessing the situation at hand, all parties involved, and determine what responsibility I have in presenting strong evidence to support my present position.<\/p>\n
For example, why should a teenager understand an adult\u2019s perception regarding overuse of technology.\u00a0 For they haven\u2019t lived the consequences of being engulfed in something which steals away their time, their energy, etc.\u00a0 They are young and vibrant.\u00a0 To them, it\u2019s not a big deal.\u00a0 During my teen years, it was Atari or Nintendo!\u00a0 Unfortunately, we couldn\u2019t take them on the road with us, so our focused time was deliberate, however I\u2019m sure we spent hours gaming back then.\u00a0 Now we are adults, and we understand a little differently based on our past experience.\u00a0 But why should the teenager understand this perception?\u00a0 For their experiences aren\u2019t the same.\u00a0 It would be my role to present better evidence to them why it might be a good idea to put down the cell phone now and then.<\/p>\n
Business is no different.\u00a0 Perhaps there is a challenging employee.\u00a0 You think the employee needs terminated, however your boss sees things differently.\u00a0 In your opinion, the boss is disconnected from the situation \u2013 not in the daily grind and management of the employee.\u00a0 Does your boss not trust your perception?\u00a0 Perhaps.\u00a0 It is up to you to convince your boss with strong evidence why this employee is more of a hindrance than a productive team member.\u00a0 Your boss might be bringing to the table years of experience with their own successes in managing people \u2013 albeit their perception of successes.\u00a0 Where you are bringing yours.\u00a0 Out of the two of you whomever is unhappy with the current situation needs to the table the evidence to support their position.<\/p>\n
Preparedness, determination, and a belief you are doing the right thing will fuel successful evidence gathering.\u00a0 This doesn\u2019t mean it will be easy or desirable, and it won\u2019t contribute to our human need to have immediate satisfaction.\u00a0 However, it will be worth the investment.\u00a0 Yes, there will be times you will not get your way.\u00a0 You will need to tolerate the employee staying employed or tolerate your teenager continuing to bug out on technology.\u00a0 But you will rest assure you have presented your position to the best of your ability.\u00a0 This alone will help with the peace of mind we all crave in our day to day life.<\/p>\n
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Susan Denee<\/em><\/p>\n Life Coach <\/em><\/p>\n Specializing in long term recovery from addiction & alcoholism<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Have you ever desperately wanted someone to see your point […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4412,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[113,90],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3622","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-business","category-career"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n